How to Know Yourself to Become a Confident Public Speaker

The key to strong public speaking isn’t external—it’s internal. To speak with confidence and authenticity, you must know yourself: your habits, fears, and strengths.

Why It Matters

Many people fear public speaking because they don’t know how they’ll react under pressure. But when you’ve studied yourself—your tone, body language, thought patterns—you’re no longer in the dark. You can prepare with purpose.

5 Ways to Know Yourself as a Speaker

1. Mirror Practice

Watch your gestures, posture, and expressions. Adjust anything that doesn’t align with your message or comes across as nervous energy.

2. Record and Review

Video or audio record your speech and analyze:

• Pacing

• Clarity

• Vocal tone

• Filler words

You’ll see what your audience sees—and can make changes accordingly.

3. Practice in Front of Others

Friends, family, or coworkers can provide useful insights. Ask them what they noticed and how you made them feel.

4. Track Your Nervous Habits

Write down what typically happens when you get nervous—rushing, hands shaking, voice cracking. Awareness is the first step to control.

5. Set a Personal Speaking Goal

Define what you want to improve—whether it’s storytelling, eye contact, or pausing. Customize your progress so it fits your journey, not just a general checklist.

Additional Tips:

• Journal your thoughts after every speech: What worked? What didn’t? What felt natural?

• Use relaxation techniques (deep breathing, positive affirmations) before speaking to calm your body and mind.

Recommended Resources:

• The Speaking Club Podcast by Sarah Archer – https://www.saraharcher.co.uk/podcast

• Toastmasters Evaluation Tools – https://www.toastmasters.org/resources

• Harvard Health: Overcoming Performance Anxiety – https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/overcoming-performance-anxiety